It’s hard to believe we’re already a week into the new year! If you’re anything like me, you probably feel like you’ve been in some crazy time warp vortex. Somehow between November and January, life seems to move at break-neck speeds and this year has been no different.
If I’m being honest, I’m feeling a little behind the ball. Come December 31st, I’ve usually visualized and planned out my intentions and plans for the new year so that come 12:01am on January 1st, I feel pumped up and ready to take on the new year. Not so much this year. In fact, it been mostly this past week that I’ve been thinking ahead and really planning out what I want for the year. I figure better late than never!
I feel like today is the day when people tend to get re-focused and, in some ways, it feels like the “real” start to the new year. It’s the first full week of the new year and most of us made all sorts of “new year, new me” type commitments this weekend. Those decadent treats taste so much sweeter when you can tell yourself “the diet starts Monday” right?
Looking forward to a new year can feel daunting for all of us. So many of us are in places we never imagined we’d be last year and yet here we are. We don’t know what’s to come and we don’t know what life will have in store for us this year, but we can certainly set some intentions and make some goals for ourselves.
This year, instead of of “shoulding” on myself (one of my therapists favorite terms), I’ve set intentions not based so much on specific goals but how I want to feel and how I want to show up in my life. Instead of telling myself “I should lose ____ pounds” or “I should eliminate ___”, I’m focusing on showing up and being courageous in my life. I almost made “fearless” my word or intention for the year, but in all honesty, I don’t want a life without fear. Fear can be a good thing - it can protect us from harm and serve us in other ways. What I don’t want, however, is to not go after opportunities or not show up 100% authentically in my life because of fear - I want to acknowledge the fear and then proceed in spite of it. Basically…WWBBD? What Would Brene Brown Do. Not to say she has it all figured out, but man has she got courage down to a science. My love for Brene knows no bounds and I know her and her work will be sprinkled throughout my year to help keep me inspired!
My other intention is to focus on my health. Making your health a priority is something that most of us struggle with - our lives are busy and unless you’re getting paid to do so, working out and eating the most healthful food every day just doesn’t always feel realistic. When you throw in chronic pain and other issues, it can feel downright daunting. But it is a priority for me personally, so this year I am focusing on building a healthy and nurturing relationship with my body, listening to what it needs, and really caring for it in a loving way. For someone who has a life long battle with my body, it feels like I’m heading into uncharted territory - it’s terrifying and thrilling all at the same time.
And that’s it. Those 2 things are my focus for 2019 - courage and intentional health. Believe me, as a life long perfectionist and people pleaser, it’s a little hard to wrap my head around it. I’m notorious for going into each new year with a list of 20+ resolutions. Are you the same way? Do you vow to essentially change everything about your life for the new year and then feel super defeated a couple weeks later when you’re back to your old ways?
My hope for you is that this year you’ll slow down a bit and just focus on 1 or 2 things that you want in your life. Maybe you want to take classes to learn a new skill, or travel, or build stronger relationships with the people in your life. Whatever you want to bring into your life in the new year, I hope you’ll focus on things that will really spark joy for you - things that will make your life feel more rich and fulfilling..
I’m dying to know, what do you want to focus on this year? What are you most excited about? What is going to make 2019 your best year yet?