Well friends, it’s done. I’ve officially turned 40!
In the months and weeks leading up to this milestone birthday, I’ve had people ask me how I felt about turning 40. They often ask in hushed voices with a pained expression on their faces, giving me the impression that people feel like 40 is a dirty word or that turning 40 is something to be ashamed of. I gotta tell ya, I feel exactly the opposite.
Maybe it’s been all the reflecting I’ve been doing on the past decade but I am coming into my 40th year on this earth feeling more alive, more “me”, more confident, more grounded and more in awe of my own uniqueness. To put it bluntly, I’m feelin’ myself in a major way. As someone who has struggled with body image issues, survived trauma and has had a life-long struggle with feeling worthy, this is brand new territory and I gotta say, it feels amazing!
I certainly don’t have all the answers but I’ve definitely learned a thing or two in these past 4 decades and I thought I’d share a few with you:
Life is a miracle. Just stop for a moment to think about how incredible it is that out of countless possibilities, you are YOU and out of over 7 billion people, you are a 100% totally unique human being.
Everyone is fighting their own battle(s) and just doing the best they can. Be kind.
You have way more power over your life than you think you do. Hate the job you’re in? You can do something about that. Want to travel the world? You can do it! We may not have control over many things in life, but we can control our reactions and how we choose to see the world. See the possibilities and know that you are worthy and deserving of a life that you love.
There are few things in life better than a Sunday afternoon nap.
Tea and a heart-to-heart conversation with a friend is just about the best thing ever.
There is never a “perfect” time. I’ve spent nearly my entire life believing that there would be a point in time where everything would magically come together but the truth is, there is never a perfect time for having kids, or buying a house, or starting to save money, or to start following your passion…the list goes on and on and on. Just start somewhere - the time is NOW!
There are very few things in life that are actually important. So much of life is fluff. We live in a society that pressures us to keep up with the latest and greatest, that celebrates materialism, and that tells us that being busy all the time is a badge of honor. None of that stuff matters.
There definitely was room on that door for both Jack and Rose, just sayin…
Perfection is overrated.
I don’t know what the rest of my 40’s will hold, just like I didn’t know what my 20’s or 30’s would hold. But one thing I know for sure is that I am going into the next decade with more joy, happiness, clarity and hope than I ever have before and I can’t wait to see what comes next…